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| Introduction |
Hope Trust recognizes the fact that addiction is a family disease. The families suffer as much, if not more, than the alcoholic/addict; therefore Hope Trust lays special emphasis on the families, which are often neglected. |
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For the families, there are regular classes on Sundays apart from therapy sessions with counsellors and communication exercises with the clients for healthy relationships on a long-term basis. |
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| Alcoholism
- Family's Road to Recovery |
Alcoholism is now recognised as a
'disease' by leading medical authorities such as WHO and
modern treatment facilities. Like any disease,
alcoholism is characterised by definite symptoms. |
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One of the symptoms is that it does
not affect the alcoholic alone - it is a and those close to the alcoholic are as
deeply affected by it, if not more. |
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'It is a family disease
and those close to the alcoholic
are as
deeply affected by it, if not
more'. |
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Members of any family operate in a
system, wherein they are interdependent and work
together for survival and enjoyment. When there is
stress, the whole family readjusts and realigns itself
to achieve balance and stability. |
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The family of an alcoholic is a set
of hurt, confused persons. Though they do not drink,
they are nevertheless victimized by alcohol. |
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A lot of research and study has been
done on the subject. Clear symptoms and the variety of
roles played out by the family members have been
identified. |
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Just as alcohol affect all areas of
the drinker's life - physical, mental, emotional,
spiritual and social (relationships) - the family
members go through a roller coaster - like experience
that affects all areas of their life. |
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As the alcoholic is addicted to the
bottle, the family becomes obsessed with the alcoholic.
Their life revolves around the alcoholic. As the
dependent often loses control over the time, quantity
and place of drinking, the family experiences a loss of
control over their responses. |
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'As the dependent often
loses control over the control over the time,
quantity and place of drinking,
the family experiences a loss of
control over their
responses'. |
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The alcoholic constantly 'justifies' his drinking and blames others for his condition; the
family justifies their own irresponsible behavior and
holds the alcoholic responsible for each and every
problem in the family. Family members very often throw
tantrums just as the alcoholic becomes physically or
verbally aggressive. |
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The alcoholic often feels guilt; the
family too feels occasional pangs of guilt. Both try
repeated attempts at change though unsuccessful. Both
avoid social contacts. Alcoholics suffer from
indefinable fears (paranoia) and the family experiences
constant lurking fear, due to internalized emotional
stress. Low self - esteem is typical of the alcoholic
(compensated by grandiose behavior) and members of his
family always feel inadequate. Both avoid social
contacts. |
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'Denial' is a typical characteristic
of alcoholism. Various forms of denial exist in the
family - blaming: -' his wife doesn't care'. This way
the parents try and absolve themselves, conveniently
transferring the blame to the daughter-in-law. Rather
than acknowledge the increasing disability from
addiction, as the disease goes wildly out of control,
family members often explain away with
rationalizations: "he's drinking due to pressure at
office" |
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When an alcoholic continues drinking,
the family ironically enables him to continue his
addiction. In their attempts to help the alcoholic, the
family members will unwittingly enable the drinking by
taking over the responsibilities of the drunk, by
rescuing him from tight situations, making excuses on
his behalf, and providing money or shelter. This way,
the alcoholic is never allowed to face the consequences
of his behaviour. and thus does not feel the need for
recovery. |
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Modern treatment facilities offer a recovery programme for the family
members while the alcoholic is in treatment. This way
the entire family is empowered to begin the tough
journey on the 'road to recovery'. The goal of treatment
is to make the family whole and healthy again. As a
leading expert puts it- "Addiction is a
family problem, and recovery a family
responsibility" |
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'The road to recovery is
certainly not easy- it requires tremendous
courage and a lot of time. But it is worth
the
effort'. |
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The road to recovery is certainly not
easy- it requires tremendous courage and a lot of time.
But it is worth the effort. |
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